Seating at a funeral or memorial service

If you're organising a funeral or memorial service, seating is probably the last thing on your mind. This short guide covers the few decisions worth making ahead of time, so the day runs gently and nobody has to worry about where to sit.

Reserved rows for family

The front rows are usually reserved for the closest family:

• The first row: spouse or partner, children, and parents.
• The next rows: siblings, grandchildren, and other close relatives.
• Close friends sit just behind family, if they wish.

Mark reserved rows with a simple card or ribbon, and let ushers or the funeral director guide family to them.

Blended and separated families

If family relationships are complicated, it's fine to reserve two sets of rows, one on each side of the aisle, so everyone has a place near the front without being side by side. Ask the people involved what they'd prefer, if you can.

Pallbearers and those taking part

• Pallbearers often sit together, near the front, on the aisle, so they can move easily.
• Readers, speakers and musicians need aisle seats close to where they'll stand.

Guests who need a little more

• Older guests and anyone with limited mobility: aisle seats near the front, with a clear route.
• Wheelchair users: a space at the end of a row with a good view, not at the back.
• Families with small children: near the back or an exit.

Overflow

If many people are expected, plan for overflow: extra chairs at the back, standing room, or a second room with a screen. Ushers can guide latecomers quietly.

The reception afterwards

Many families hold a gathering afterwards with food and drink. Assigned seating is rarely needed, but it helps to:

• Keep a table for the immediate family, so they can sit together when they need a rest.
• Have plenty of chairs, especially for older guests.
• Set out a table for photos, a guest book or memories.

Our church or memorial service template shows a layout with a centre aisle and front rows set aside for family. You can add names, print it, and give it to the ushers.